Flinch

“So it’s that bad huh?”

“I don’t know if I’d say it’s that bad, but it can get pretty bad.  Especially when your playing.” I told him.

“So what do you do to stop it?  I mean it’s not like you can stop playing with him,” He said.

“Yeah I know.  Wife said I need to buck up but she hasn’t been hit in the nads.  It hurts and he just seems to get it just right.  You know when you get hit just right and it’s not hard or anything but it hurts like a son of a bitch?  Well that’s what he’s like.”

“Maybe I need to invest in a cup before our little one gets to his age.”

“Might not be a bad idea. I think before our second gets here I might get one as well.  It’s a good thing we are done after two cause I’m not sure we’d be able to have another one.”

“Well good luck man.  You can do it. ”

“Thanks.  You too.”

This post brought to you by my little boy who just seems to get those ‘hits’ just right.  Not sure what the solution is, but I think any dad that makes it out of fatherhood without a flinch is doing good. 

 

Walter White or The Quaker Oats Man?

One of the joys of bring up your child is getting to hear them begin to speak.  Most of the time (perhaps all of the time?) their first words are mommy and daddy.  It’s one of the best feelings ever.  When I come home from work my boy is usually at the top of the stairs yelling “daddy” over and over again.  It brings a big smile to my face and my frustrations from work are washed away.

There are however some challenges with this.  In our case our boy thinks all males are ‘daddy’.  My wife will be out shopping and the boy see’s a male and yells out ‘daddy’.  She finds it quite embarrassing and explains to the man, who probably has a stunned look on his face, that he thinks all males are daddy.

This even goes so far that daddy has been on the Oatmeal container disguised as the Quaker Oats man.  And last night while looking for something to watch on Netflix daddy was all of a sudden Walter White from Breaking Bad!  I found the Walter White reference rather amusing and I stopped for a second.

Like it or hate it, Breaking Bad has a lot of moral issues that you can discuss.  One of them that I’ve looked at a bit is doing anything to make sure your family is taken care of.  I’m not saying everyone should go out and start to learn how to cook blue meth, I’m just saying Walter did what he thought was right to provide for his family should he not be there anymore.  I think in today’s day and age some men find it’s easier, when the tough gets going, they get going rather than doing what it takes to have a family.  When you step to the alter you take on the leadership role, for better or worse, and you are the man.  Do whatever it takes to provide for your family.

 

Raising a boy today

Before my boy was even born I was thinking about what it was going to take to raise a boy in today’s age.  I want to raise a boy who is kind and considerate.  Who know he shouldn’t be picking on anyone else (bullying) but also knows how to defend himself if he’s on the receiving end of the bullying.  I want him to know the outdoors and not be afraid of it.  To not sit in front of the television for hours on end.  These, and many more are my wishes for him.  But that’s a lot of wishing.  It’s very overwhelming if you sit down and think about it all the time.

I don’t have the answers and I’m not sure that I ever will.  I think one just has to do their best and strive to be the best father and hope that it all turns out for the better.  Educating oneself, as a parent isn’t a bad idea either.  Along those lines I’d take a look at a book called Boys Adrift: The Five Factors Driving the Growing Epidemic of Unmotivated Boys and Underachieving Young Men.  It’s a quick read and probably something I’ll re-read as time goes by.  It’s a doctors view point on what is keeping boys from achieving what they did in the past (dare I say took).  It fired me up and it still fires me up.

This post isn’t really going anywhere right now so I’ll conclude with this.  Mother or father you want what’s best for your child.  It’s going to be a lot of work, but you will be doing your best no matter what.  If you don’t think your doing your best then pick yourself up and tell yourself to do better and do it better.

Being sick and having a toddler

Time must be catching up to me or something.  For the second time in a little over a month I’m sick.  Up until recently I could go a year or more without being sick.  However that doesn’t appear to be the case anymore.  The first time was over Christmas and luckily my parents where here to take care of our son while myself and my wife were sick.  However this last week my wife was sick and I made it through, until the last couple of days.  I’ve been fighting a cold that’s got my nose running and a slight headache.  Occasionally I’ll have some body aches, but not to much…yet.

But it does bring up and interesting point for new parents that you probably don’t think about.  There is no rest when you are a new parent.  Especially if you are the stay at home parent (if you can), like my wife.  As someone who has never had a child you’re probably thinking “how could you take care of a toddler when your sick”.  There’s no secret formula.  You just muster on and get it done.  It’s probably not the best parenting, but you made it through.  If your the parent that goes and works then work is actually less work than staying at home.  At least that has been my observation!

So for any new parents out there, just a heads up that you’ll have to deal with this.  If your lucky you may have some family to take care of your little on while you recover, we don’t.  Despite this