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Raising a boy today

Before my boy was even born I was thinking about what it was going to take to raise a boy in today’s age.  I want to raise a boy who is kind and considerate.  Who know he shouldn’t be picking on anyone else (bullying) but also knows how to defend himself if he’s on the receiving end of the bullying.  I want him to know the outdoors and not be afraid of it.  To not sit in front of the television for hours on end.  These, and many more are my wishes for him.  But that’s a lot of wishing.  It’s very overwhelming if you sit down and think about it all the time.

I don’t have the answers and I’m not sure that I ever will.  I think one just has to do their best and strive to be the best father and hope that it all turns out for the better.  Educating oneself, as a parent isn’t a bad idea either.  Along those lines I’d take a look at a book called Boys Adrift: The Five Factors Driving the Growing Epidemic of Unmotivated Boys and Underachieving Young Men.  It’s a quick read and probably something I’ll re-read as time goes by.  It’s a doctors view point on what is keeping boys from achieving what they did in the past (dare I say took).  It fired me up and it still fires me up.

This post isn’t really going anywhere right now so I’ll conclude with this.  Mother or father you want what’s best for your child.  It’s going to be a lot of work, but you will be doing your best no matter what.  If you don’t think your doing your best then pick yourself up and tell yourself to do better and do it better.